SEX LIFE FOR COUPLES WITH KIDS IS NO GAME.........

Yeah,yeah.I know you may think at 1st that this Mum seems to have a "green"(in the Filipino context) or "blue" (in the Aussie context) mind coz she dared to mention a topic that can intrigue some...& excite others,he he.

But let's face it,sex will always be an issue no matter when & how it is discussed,ok?Even among the so-called "holy" or "morally right" people,there's not a time,not even once a year,that passes by without them talking about things that doesn't touch on this topic.

And right now,what ill try to discuss is how it affects some couples,young or not so young,who had kids under the age of 10.

It's always a wonder why couples who were able to have their sweet private time during the early years of marriage suddenly can't even find a place to share intimate moments together once the kids started to come by.Although based on my experience,there will be days that whilst the hubby's 'appetite' was on high,my batteries were already 'flat' for spending all day with screaming,clingy kids who always wanted a piece of Mummy all the time.Plus the worry that Dad may be too tired already when he comes home that he may end up sleeping instead of giving innuendos on some days that even if it's my engines who are rarin' to go,i just assume that he wanted to have his rest,only to find out the day after that he was just waiting for me to make a move,lol!Or there will be days too that just as we're revvin' up our love machines,one of the kids will either cry his or her lungs out or take a sneak peak in our room.

Ha ha,i know,having kids who are too young  to understand that Mum & Dad do need some "play time" themselves can be hard,i tell you!And with 10-year old kids (we have a son about that age),the worries about their curiosity & where it will lead them can really distract any thinking parents if ever their children will see them doing their thing.

But one sad thing though is that some couples either tend to give up & leave their intimate time till later or drop it all off in their agenda & find themselves dissatisfied,lonely,thinking that the other partner is giving more priority to their children than them etc.So in comes the arguements,the suspicions,being short tempered at the kids & other minor(& sometimes major) issues that can rise simply because they can't find enough time for their passion with the spouses.

Ain't it right?I know,coz aside from what i hear & read,i also happen to know some couples who had that sort of dilemna.And mind you,if it's hard for a couple with just one or two kids alone,what more if you had 4 (like me) or even more?

But i guess that discussing the matter with the spouse in a frank,no-holds barred way can be a step into the right direction if you want to have the bedroom excitement back in your lives.Being open to your needs & that of the partner may lead to more creative ways on how you can spend time with each other again.You can either plan for a weekend away from the kids & go somewhere else where there's just the two of you (nah,the motel is not just the only place you can go to do it,but is'nt it nice to have an easy option?LOL!!).

I can suggest other places plus ways of doing it so but i don't want my blog to be censored,he he he.Besides,self-help books & blogs from relationship experts abound even on the Internet.They are the specialists when it comes to advises on how to do it right & still enjoy the company of your children whilst having fun as husband & wife.It's worth giving these a try as well.

Speaking of which,gotta leave now,hubby's home.Wish me luck,,,,,, -_^ v!!!