SEX LIFE FOR COUPLES WITH KIDS IS NO GAME.........

Yeah,yeah.I know you may think at 1st that this Mum seems to have a "green"(in the Filipino context) or "blue" (in the Aussie context) mind coz she dared to mention a topic that can intrigue some...& excite others,he he.

But let's face it,sex will always be an issue no matter when & how it is discussed,ok?Even among the so-called "holy" or "morally right" people,there's not a time,not even once a year,that passes by without them talking about things that doesn't touch on this topic.

And right now,what ill try to discuss is how it affects some couples,young or not so young,who had kids under the age of 10.

It's always a wonder why couples who were able to have their sweet private time during the early years of marriage suddenly can't even find a place to share intimate moments together once the kids started to come by.Although based on my experience,there will be days that whilst the hubby's 'appetite' was on high,my batteries were already 'flat' for spending all day with screaming,clingy kids who always wanted a piece of Mummy all the time.Plus the worry that Dad may be too tired already when he comes home that he may end up sleeping instead of giving innuendos on some days that even if it's my engines who are rarin' to go,i just assume that he wanted to have his rest,only to find out the day after that he was just waiting for me to make a move,lol!Or there will be days too that just as we're revvin' up our love machines,one of the kids will either cry his or her lungs out or take a sneak peak in our room.

Ha ha,i know,having kids who are too young  to understand that Mum & Dad do need some "play time" themselves can be hard,i tell you!And with 10-year old kids (we have a son about that age),the worries about their curiosity & where it will lead them can really distract any thinking parents if ever their children will see them doing their thing.

But one sad thing though is that some couples either tend to give up & leave their intimate time till later or drop it all off in their agenda & find themselves dissatisfied,lonely,thinking that the other partner is giving more priority to their children than them etc.So in comes the arguements,the suspicions,being short tempered at the kids & other minor(& sometimes major) issues that can rise simply because they can't find enough time for their passion with the spouses.

Ain't it right?I know,coz aside from what i hear & read,i also happen to know some couples who had that sort of dilemna.And mind you,if it's hard for a couple with just one or two kids alone,what more if you had 4 (like me) or even more?

But i guess that discussing the matter with the spouse in a frank,no-holds barred way can be a step into the right direction if you want to have the bedroom excitement back in your lives.Being open to your needs & that of the partner may lead to more creative ways on how you can spend time with each other again.You can either plan for a weekend away from the kids & go somewhere else where there's just the two of you (nah,the motel is not just the only place you can go to do it,but is'nt it nice to have an easy option?LOL!!).

I can suggest other places plus ways of doing it so but i don't want my blog to be censored,he he he.Besides,self-help books & blogs from relationship experts abound even on the Internet.They are the specialists when it comes to advises on how to do it right & still enjoy the company of your children whilst having fun as husband & wife.It's worth giving these a try as well.

Speaking of which,gotta leave now,hubby's home.Wish me luck,,,,,, -_^ v!!!

DISSECTING THE SONG "EBONY AND IVORY" MY WAY...

These past few weeks,i keep on singing one particular 80s tune on most mornings.I can't find a sane,reasonable explanation as to why i do so,it just came to me.

The song in question is Sir Paul McCartney & Stevie Wonder's "Ebony and Ivory".

I don't understand why all of a sudden i had the urge to sing it specially when im doing my usual home routines.It wasn't even on my list of all time favourite 80s hits though i consider this as one of the great songs of its time.And boy i do love Sir Paul & Stevie too.

So in my quest to find out what came over me,i tried to analyze the song itself.

For one there's the obvious referrence to the collaboration of two world-known artist from different racial groups (Paul McCartney an Englishman & Stevie Wonder of Afro-American origins) & their plea for people of different skin colors & races to coexist peacefully,as explained by the first stanza:

"Ebony and ivory
Live together in perfect harmony
Side by side on my piano keyboard
Oh Lord,why don't we?"


Trying to view things outside the box so to speak,i went on to the second stanza.

"We all know that people are the same
Wherever we go
There is good and bad in everyone".

Now this time it's making more sense,at least to me.We always tend to look at people based on their racial background,ethnic group,educational achievements,life status etc.and base our judgment of them and their character from there.Which should not be the case but whether we admit it or not,there's the tendency for most of us to think that way.

This thought made me feel gulity as i do tend to think in a similar way towards people.Now i am starting to see why i started to like the song mentioned in this note in a way that i never did before.It feels like another divine message telling me softly to change my ways and have a more broad mind in my interactions with people.Some people may hurt you unintentionally by just them being themselves,some may do so intentionally by pretending to be somebody they're not.Either way,respect, patience,forgiveness & proper understanding of the human nature seems to be the key in dealing with this without hurting yourself in the progress

.Hence the last stanza made its message clearer to me as well:

OUR LI'L BUBBY HAILEE

I just realized that not only had it taken me a while to get back to my Blogspot page,i hadn't announced here that i was about to give birth to another baby girl as well.So better late than never as most people would say,i'd rather write something about her now.

June 26,2009,at round 9 am,Bob & i were on the delivery room.I'm about to have an elective Caesarian operation for the 3rd time with my 4th baby.Within to less than 2 hours later,that lovely bundle of joy had emerged from my tummy & boy,isnt she such an angel.There had been a bit of a problem at 1st as she sort of nearly drowned from all the fluids she had whilst still inside my womb but after about an hour & when all of the necessary cleaning had been done,she was brought beside me for her 1st ever breast feeding.

We named our new child Hailee Mae,Hailee because we had first thought of spelling her name as Hayley but changed it at the last minute so it will sound a bit unique (& hubby also thought of hail/hale storm as well,he he he!)& Mae because one member of the husband's family tree (a grand-aunt i think) had it as a 2nd name,just to keep up with the European tradition of honoring a relative by giving their 1st or 2nd name to a child within the family.And much to our expectation,she had been so far our "low-maintenance baby".We thought it so because she had been the most placid baby that we had from the time she was born.The only time you'll hear her cry was when she 1)is hungry 2)had a dirty or wet nappy 3)hungry(of course,LOL!) 4)when she don't feel well and now 5) when Mum &/or Dad ignore her.Other than that,you feed then bathe her & put her in a safe place around the house & she'll be happy & contented.

Im having a bit of trouble right now in keeping jealous big sister Leiah's hands away from her specially if they sit together in the double pram .Yah,sibling rivalry so to speak.You see,Leiah had been so used to the idea that she is THE baby of the family(& Daddy's little girl too) then suddenly Hailee came.But im sure she'll overcome it.My sons Angelo & Kyrel adore their baby sister though.

Bed time was never a problem with our bubba,except on some days when she's either ill or wanted more attention before she sleeps.She'll sleep through the night & greet you with a smile as soon as she wakes up& another thing that cheers me up every morning is the fact that she had been awake & playing even before i check her when i wake up!And oh yes,she's so much her Mummy's girl.She clings to me so much it even make her Dad a bit jealous,ha ha ha!But she's now enjoying her Daddy's company as well(then return to my arms as soon as she sees me,LOL!)

At 8 months she's now at the stage of trying to talk & putting everything she can grab in her mouth so we all have to be careful & watchful as well.She also crawls now & boy how she does it!She can crawl really fast,forwards & backwards.Yes,she's into solid foods as well.For now she loves eating custard & that pumpkin & sweetcorn tinned baby's food.She also eats eggs & mashed potatoes as well.

Yeah,early days still.So much might change a few months from now.But i'll just seize the moment & enjoy my lovely li'l bubby whilst she still had her adoring eyes on me.

GLAD I FOUND MY WAY BACK HERE!

Been away for a while from this blogsite of mine.So much had been happening around here aside from our personal issues,which took most of my time & attention & drained my thoughts.And yeah,there's also the issue of forgetting my password,he he he!

But now im back,& hopefully i can make this blogsite more meaningful & with proper sense.

That's it for now,BRB soon when the creative juices come in full force(& if i can find enough time to escape from my homey routines,LOL!)